30+ What To Say To Grieving Mother. What to say…and what not to say. When to offer your condolences. You can say whatever you want to say—or nothing at all. Many parents are not only grieving the actual death of their child, but also the loss of hopes, dreams and a future. Give her a call and tell her over the phone. Or something happened to a friend from college they . I am so sorry for your loss is a good example. Gently cut her some slack and try to be understanding. Look her in the eyes and say "happy mother's day. Listening to him and encouraging him to talk about your mother;
